Sunday, November 11, 2007
Not playing favorites
During a long rambling conversation today, a parent mentioned something interesting. Apparently (heh) he has always felt an intense connection with one of his children that has been closer and more enduring than with his other offspring. He asked whether others in the room had had similar experiences. Everyone was reluctant to answer, presumably because we all believe - to the degree of conviction - that one does not and, indeed, must not favor one child over another. I suppose we've all felt more simpatico with one or another child at different times but that's not the same thing, having more to do with interests and activities. And we've probably all known parents who seemed to have favorites, but I'd never heard a parent acknowledge such feelings or explain them quite like this. I do wonder what one would do in such a situation? I mean, people can't deny how they feel. A parent can be absolutely sure that all actions are equal (gifts, time spent, etc.) but connectedness and passion are almost impossible to hide, avoid or see, for everyone involved. What could one do?
Labels: children, family, reflections
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| posted by jau at 5:48 PM
jau — at 10:58 PM, November 11, 2007:
| posted by jau at 5:48 PM
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jau — at 10:58 PM, November 11, 2007:
Love them equally - for sure! I think the issue is that he simply likes one better and always has felt unique and special ties with that one, too. Tough, eh? Do most of us unconsciously turn off our like-o-meters with regard to our children and grandchildren so we don't consider the question? What if we didn't?? Tough!
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