Wednesday, March 12, 2008
Plus ça change? Please, no
Why does Mrs NY Gov keep standing beside her hubris-ridden, felony-committing, falsehood-uttering, probably narcissistic husband when he makes his announcements? She looks as if she hasn't slept in days and she looks absolutely miserable. It certainly allows him to retain a semblance of family pride and normalcy but it seems nutty to me. Is there any way shape or form in which it helps her or her children, for example?
Please please please tell me this isn't a remnant of the "what did I do to make you do this to me?" syndrome to which many women, bright and smart having nothing to do with it, fall prey. We are raised to be the helpmates and "good girls" who are the "power behind the throne" and logically, therefore, hold the real reins to everything. Thus if we are beaten or abused or psychologically trampled, it is essentially our fault and therefore it us up to us to figure a way out of the maze (since it is, at least partially, of our own making, following the logic mentioned above). I thought perhaps women had moved beyond this but Mrs. NY Gov is in her late forties so maybe it is where she is coming from. But one would hope that all her degrees and professional success would have helped to disabuse (pun intended) her of that collectively unconscious habit. Or have we not progressed fifty years since fifty years ago?
Please please please tell me this isn't a remnant of the "what did I do to make you do this to me?" syndrome to which many women, bright and smart having nothing to do with it, fall prey. We are raised to be the helpmates and "good girls" who are the "power behind the throne" and logically, therefore, hold the real reins to everything. Thus if we are beaten or abused or psychologically trampled, it is essentially our fault and therefore it us up to us to figure a way out of the maze (since it is, at least partially, of our own making, following the logic mentioned above). I thought perhaps women had moved beyond this but Mrs. NY Gov is in her late forties so maybe it is where she is coming from. But one would hope that all her degrees and professional success would have helped to disabuse (pun intended) her of that collectively unconscious habit. Or have we not progressed fifty years since fifty years ago?
Labels: family, people, reflections, women
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| posted by jau at 12:41 PM
jau — at 3:14 AM, March 13, 2008:
| posted by jau at 12:41 PM
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jau — at 3:14 AM, March 13, 2008:
Thanks for that! An amazing number of men have been prattling on about "hey, it's just sex" and making me quite furious. A, it's not "just" sex since it was many years and many dollars; B, it was so incredibly public and the exact stuff for which he prosecuted people. Hubris, pitard, etc. And nary a word of regret or sorrow or responsibility, as you say. Ugh.
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